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Almost There!
Court date set for June 14 then I have 3 weeks of publishing it, but it should be official by July 1st!
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Childhood Lost
When you realize as an adult that you endured an abusive childhood, it turns your life on its ear. You have to re-evaluate your past, your habits, your behaviors–even if you don’t actively pursue this...
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My New Therapist
I guess I’ve been seeing her for 2 months now and I have to say, I really like her. She’s very aggressive and quick- never misses a thing. She catches me when I don’t even realize I’ve been changing...
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One step forward, One step back
A group of my friends and I went to see a show last night for a band I’ve liked since the early 90s. First off, it was so hot in the venue that I nearly passed out before the show, I was talking to one...
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T-71 hours and counting…
In 71 hours, a judge will be hearing my case to change my name (which I’m told will consist of being asked if I’m doing it to deceive creditors or evade the law, then sent on my merry way.) after I...
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What Fathers’ Day Means to Me
On Fathers’ Day last year, my father sent me a string of abusive emails, in which he refused to do anything but blame me for everything wrong in the world. My responses went ignored, my words unheeded....
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Giving up the web address
After much consideration, I’ve decided to give up the web address http://notyourvictim.me, which is expiring in 3 days. Considering most of my traffic comes through other wordpress bloggers and the...
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Happy Anniversary, NYV
Today is not only my one year anniversary of blogging here, but this is my 200th post! I didn’t plan it this way, but it works out pretty nicely. I also somehow have 102 people following my blog- a...
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Giving Myself Permission
It’s okay to be sad sometimes, whether I have a reason to feel sad or not, it’s okay. I don’t question it or try to force a different emotion when I’m pointlessly happy, so why judge my sadness? While...
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Home Again
New Orleans was perfect. It was blissfully warm, there was “air in the air” and glorious humidity! I got to see my friends, eat food that has flavor in it and talk to strangers (something that isn’t as...
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The epitome of laziness
So I just got a letter in the mail (to my old name) regarding changes to my health insurance benefits through ExHusband’s job. I moved out on May 9, 2012. I signed the divorce papers on my birthday...
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I should probably start a school blog just so I don’t end up over-running this one with academia, but I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it. Classes started up on Tuesday and they’re amazing! Because...
View ArticleI Hate Everyone
Okay, that’s not true, but it did sound like a nice, dramatic title for a post. The truth is that somewhere across the last 6 or so months, I’ve just stopped liking all the things and people I used to...
View ArticleFood for Thought
If you’ve been following along, you know that I’ve lost most of my friends over the past few months. The true beginning of the end, so to speak, was getting myself into therapy. Talking things out with...
View ArticleDream Talk
It’s been 2 years, but I still dream about my parents. Still dream about ExHusband, too, though that irritates me less. Last night, I dreamed I was in Paris with my racist, xenophobic family, which was...
View Article7 Years Ago Today
Warning: This post may be triggering, it will include descriptions of abuse. Project Runway, that’s what started the last fight, the one that finally got me to leave TheEx. I’d been planning to leave...
View ArticleThe Epiphany
I was reminded of this earlier and hunted it down. The back story is that one year after I’d escaped TheEx, I moved to a tiny town on the coast of Oregon. It was as far as I could get from him, it was...
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Halloween!
Bexley, my dog, likes to be naked. She doesn’t fight me when I put a coat or sweater on her, but she acts like it’s abuse and hangs her head in shame, or shakes dramatically. That said, she’s a...
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I mentioned in a post last month about my dual cancer scares, which by the way both turned up negative. As far as the breast cancer scare went, it turns out my tits are made of armpit, the lump was a...
View ArticleFood Nostalgia
I’m Jewish, but the household I grew up in was anything but kosher. Personally, as an adult, I kept kosher for 8 years and kept a kosher kitchen for at least 4 of those years (the rest of the time I...
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